Grief Help you can count on: The Grief Recovery Method®  

Learners get help with grief one step at a time, starting with unlearning the conventional-not-helpful thinking and doing when it comes to grief and loss.

Learners get help with addressing the things they wished had been said or done differently or better or more. This is unresolved grief that you can learn your way out of.

Learners get help with addressing the hopes, dreams and expectations of a future that has little or no chance of happening. This is unresolved grief that you can learn your way out of.

Grief help that goes where you go. Goodbye unresolved grief. Hello lifelong inner compass that helps grief lighten up throughout a life's journey. Learn the method once and apply as often as necessary.

Grief Help à la Grief Recovery Method® in Learners’ Words

 

"Grief recovery is a constructive series of actions that allows you to work through the emotional pain of grieving, rather than become stuck in an old frame of mind. It’s a gradual change and letting go of old thought patterns or habits related to our grief. It’s about being able to express what’s in our heart and let go of things that could be holding us back from living our life for today."

"Well worth the time and effort. One must be ready to ask oneself real questions and give real answers. This process is thorough, real, and tough. To me, the understanding of how we learn to grieve throughout our lifetime as well as how people around us deal with our grief was a major aha moment!"

"I think it has made me more comfortable dealing with grief, whether it be mine or others. The sharing in small groups has definitely given me much strength in the « just listen » tool. I now even use it on myself … I just listen to the words I have when expressing grief without judgement or intervention in my train of thought."

Grief help that is simple (not easy) and long-lasting looks like:

 

Private Training for one to three individuals. Occurs as soon as you like at mutually convenient times. 9 weekly sessions 60-75 minutes each via Zoom.

Group Training for 4 or more people. 10 Weekly sessions at a mutually convenient time, selected by those who complete a survey and signed up on a wait list. 2 hrs each via Zoom.

Grief Recovery Method® Graduates have an option to tack on additional weeks to apply the method with additional guidance.

About CMA

  • I’ve facilitated collaborative knowledge creation using an array of creative and developmental topics in multinational companies, non-profits, and municipalities on three continents. I tend to communities of all kinds. I love to focus on personal development, because I believe as long as I live there is still an opportunity to learn something new.
  • I’m into road trips, hiking and Redwoods (especially when these three mix as I meander along California’s Pacific Coast Highway). I appreciate the ancestral and herbal healing ways, dance (Gaga and 5Rhythms! YAY!), books and learning circles (yup! even in my spare time) and creative pursuits.
  • I think I missed my calling as a librarian, and that hasn’t stopped me from being in a library as much as I can. I am into learning, unlearning, and relearning to grow into my continuously evolving self. 

Nearly everyone knows that the first marriage divorce rate hovers somewhere around 50%. The vast majority of those marriages are to someone other than our first love, which means that we may have dragged some of the unfinished emotional baggage from that relationship into our eventual marriage.

We must grieve and complete our relationships to the person who died, or to the marriage or romance that ended. Until and unless we do that, we are doomed to drag the past into our present and thereby sabotage our future.

~Myths of Grief by the Grief Recovery Institute

CMAz Grief Story 

I have moved 26 times across 4 continents. Every move is a loss and a gain. Many times have I lost my comfort zone and sense of belonging while gaining new friends, adventures, and favorites. Every move was not easier than the last because I had moved “x” number of times before. I did think that I was pretty good with adapting to any situation that came my way. I still do, only I’m less in denial when I realize I’m getting busy on one thing to avoid getting through another… 

I lost my first love when my parents didn’t approve. I married someone else soon after and moved to another country to leave home. I endured a few years of domestic and gun violence, thinking if I could just make it to graduating with a degree… I am lucky that dream came true. 

For years I was none the wiser about grief and loss. I hadn’t grieved my first love. I hadn’t grieved the continuous loss of safety and security that living in violence leaked into my day-to-day. I pretended I was fine and convinced myself that moving on and counting my blessings for being alive was all the healing I needed. I wasn’t going through my unfinished business closing loops so that I could move ahead without dragging my past with me. I ignored the ever-present loss of trust in myself, in others, and in life in general. 

I did a lot of searching … and submerging. I soothed my suffering with things (substances, food, sleep, books, movies, courses and and and …) to feel better. I replaced partners with new ones and replaced home addresses and jobs with new ones. I was taught to never look back, so I busied myself with the constant chase of shiny new objects. It was my way of not going through the integral motions of dealing with my accumulated grief.

My Mom’s death was a huge blow, and I started a whole new search to find relief. I finally came across the Grief Recovery Method, which is simple (not easy) and practical and effective. I realized my strength did not come from ‘keeping calm and carrying on,’ pretending as if the past can’t bother me now in the present. Rather, my strength and resilience and quality of life comes from my ability to shed some light on what’s going on inside me, see my pains of loss, appreciate how I got through it all and let the past go. My life changed for the way better, so I became certified to share this work with you and yours!

I teach the Grief Recovery Method online (so you can be based anywhere!) as well as locally in the surrounding region of Nevada County in Northern California, both to individuals and groups.

CMA as Guide, in Learners’ Words 

  • “I thought that CMA mastered the approach with ease, empathy, and knowledge. The atmosphere created allowed for comfort and trust in delivering my individual grief experiences.”
  • “CMA did a great job explaining, introducing the concepts, and fielding the questions and ideas raised.” 
  • “Overall, I think this is a fantastic course/process that anyone going through or struggling with any kind of grief should consider. That’s pretty much everyone on the planet! CMA was professional, caring and truly created a safe and comfortable space for us all to learn, share, and grow.” 
  • “CMA has a special way of communicating and sharing her knowledge. Everything was done with so much respect, love and truth!”

About You

You are wanting to move beyond the discomfort of your significant emotional losses and are ready and /or willing to take action.

You are curious to work with a well-defined evidence-based process, from beginning to end (9 private, 10 public, weekly sessions).

You realize your efforts and commitment relate to the results you’ll gain.

You know that although change may not be easy, it is definitely worth the effort.

“Even when our very core is hollowed out and charred from a significant emotional loss, the Redwood teaches us we can still reach to the stars and be as vital as ever.”

~CMA

IN-LIGHTEN Your Self – Start off your Grief Recovery by counting your losses. 

See your losses first, then pick out the heaviest ones weighing you down, and you will be ready to lighten up.

Pick the flowy loss counter if you like to flow this way and that and draw cirlces.

Loss Counter Tool: Flowy Version

Pick the linear loss counter if you like rows and columns, check and balances.

Loss Counter Tool: Linear Version

INSIGHT – See another way.

See how you may have been groomed (don’t take it personally, it happens) to feel helpless and stoic regarding your losses. Learn the way to see loss *and* feel into the resources inside that guide you through and forward.

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